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Scared of Old Age?

Author: Dr. Ali Khwaja

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Scared of Old Age?

An obviously elderly lady was celebrating her birthday when someone impolitely asked her age. Demurely she fluttered her artificial eye-lashes and said, “I’m approaching forty.” The other person could not stomach that, and promptly asked, “From which direction?”

Many of us are very conscious about disclosing our age. At times we go out of the way to try and look younger. But that is only on the physical side. If we learn how to act young, feel young, think young, talk young, we need not worry how we look physically. I have seen the innocence and charm of a child in people who are forty, sixty and eighty year old – because they kept their minds young.

Do you have occasions when you regret your past, your childhood, or your upbringing? If there are scars in the beautiful memories of your childhood and if you find yourself too old, too tired or too lazy to go back to the innocence of early days, do not blame yourself. Remind yourself that you were not responsible for anything that happened to you or that you did, in your childhood. But you are responsible for what you do or how you think now.

The process of going back to childhood is not just for your own benefit. You are aware of the widening generation gap in each family. If you have children and if you find they are drifting away from you, this is one very nice way of re-connecting with them. Often we spend a lot of time trying to pull up our children and make them grow faster. Change your approach – go down to the level of the children, and regress to their state. Then growing up with them all over again will be a joy. Be open to receiving adult statements from children like “Mamma, behave your age, don’t embarrass me”
  1. To speak truly, few adult persons can see nature. Most persons do not see the sun. At least they have a very superficial seeing. The sun illuminates only the eye of the man, but shines into the eye and heart of the child. The lover of nature is he whose inward and outward senses are still truly adjusted to each other; who has retained the spirit of infancy even into the era of manhood. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
  2. Each man carries within him the soul of a poet who died young. ~Sainte-Beuve
  3. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk about three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap.

Your childhood will never come back. But you can always go back to it. It will not spurn you. Take that step Backward!

Cut below and hand over to whosoever .....

“My Resignation”

I am hereby officially tendering my resignation as an adult. I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities of an 8 year-old again.

I want to go to a Darshini and think that it's a five-star restaurant. I want to go out in the rain and sail paper boats in the gutter. I want to return to a time when life consisted of coloring books, multiplication tables, and nursery rhymes, and I was not bothered, because I didn't know what I didn't know and I didn't care. All I want to do is to going back to being happy and blissfully unaware of all the things that should make me worried or upset.

I want to think the world is fair. That everyone is honest and good. I want to believe that anything is possible. I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life and be overly excited by the little things again.

I want to live simple again. I don't want to go to the bank, pay doctors’ bills, gossip, get adult sicknesses, or lose loved ones. I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word, truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination, mankind, and making castles out of mud.

So. . Here’s my cheque book and my car-keys, my credit card bills and my Income Tax statements. I am officially resigning from adulthood. And if you want to discuss this further, you'll have to catch me first, 'cause.... I’m going to run at full speed.

(Thumb impression, not signature – forget that you learned to write)

“When I grow up I want to be a little boy.”

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