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Living in the Present

Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now. - Eckhart Tolle
Yesterday is already a dream and tomorrow is only a vision, but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope. - Sankrit poem
Your present is the combination of past and future. Move forward for bright tomorrow.
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Date: 10 Feb 2012
Memories of past and illusion of future shades our present, the happening moment. The burden of past and the fear of future take away the action and excitement of the present. The past has happened and cannot be changed, we have to accept it and move on. The time for action is now for bringing betterment to life.

Regrets of past burdens the present and affects our future. Therefore, we must learn to handle the past by forgiving the people who have hurt us deeply, and more importantly, forgiving ourselves for our own mistakes that eats us day-and-night. Make new amends which makes you lighter and happier.

Fear of unknown future is the other factor that bleeds our energy. The thought that whether it exists or not, whether it brings hope or sorrow, success or failure finally makes your mind think that there is no future - it does not exist. Thinking about the outcome of our future is like building castle in the air but, the foundation to it is the action we perform now. This action requires focusing our attention to being fit mentally and physically; learning today to be a better person.

Living in the present, forgetting the past and not worrying about future is definitely not easy. That kind of life-style requires attitudinal change. Recalling the past only for knowledge and not for stress, preparing for the future to attain personal goals without worrying about the results, require discipline, patience and commitment on a continuous basis in the present. Past and future interact at present not to terrorize us but to make us understand ourselves, others around us and make life better for tomorrow.

In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today? - Mary Manin Morrissey
Let go of your past.
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"You reap what you sow" - as the proverb says, eventually we have to face up to the consequences of our actions. If we let our past affect our present, our present will affect our future. Seeds grow to plants, plants grow to trees and trees give seeds. Dawn to dusk, dusk to dawn - day and night come and go. The cycle of life goes on.

The inability for not letting go of the past, not learning to unlearn and relearn has widened the generation gap and developed strained relationships between the elders and the youngsters. Ego plays a greater role in adjusting to changing trends and results in dysfunctional relationships. Present has to be dynamic and adoptive to future trends for a peaceful integration and keep the life relay race going.

The hurt in the past does not allow you to enjoy the present. The thoughts of ‘should have’ and ‘should not have’ keep coming and keep bothering the present. Letting go of the past, accepting the past and focussing on the present keeps the life advancing not retreat. One can learn this from children. Children forget (the parent's punishment or fight with a friend) within minutes and keep enjoying every moment of the day.

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. - Henry David Thoreau (American Essayist, Poet and Philosopher, 1817-1862)
Change your attitude and move towards a new beginning in life.
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In nature, except humans all other life forms - brids, animals, reptiles, insects, etc. - appear to have no past and no worrysome future. Cattle graze at the same place where a pack of lions have attacked and killed one of their own. No bird or animal bother to stock food for the future. Is it because they don't have brains like us?

Let us put to use our brains for our betterment and live life with fullfilment.

Few thoughts for a happy living in present
  • Nothing is here for ever, the unpleasent or the pleasant, the failure or success. Over worry, over sorrow, over exitement nothing is permanent.Learn to live with ‘This also will Go”.
  • Train the thoughts to focus on present.
  • Learn to process the thoughts, work on thought replacement.
  • Practice mindfulness for happy present and bright future.
  • Treat thoughts as guest. They have come to stay for a defenitre period. Show hopitality to pleasant past to stay longer and show hostility to unpleasent past for them to leave early.

Power of Now Quotes - Time Quotes

The living moment is everything. ~D.H. Lawrence
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. And today? Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present. ~Babatunde Olatunji
With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present. That's were the fun is. ~Donald Trump
You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. ~Jan Glidewell
The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness. ~Abraham Maslow~
Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be. ~Eckhart Tolle
Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Aways work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life. ~Eckhart Tolle
One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. ~Dale Carnegie
Having spent the better part of my life trying either to relive the past or experience the future before it arrives, I have come to believe that in between these two extremes is peace. ~Author Unknown
We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right. ~Nelson Mandela
You can't have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time. ~Charles Franklin Kettering
Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most. ~Buddha
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles... but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. ~Buddha
Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now. ~Denis Waitley
Children have neither past nor future; they enjoy the present, which very few of us do. ~Jean de la Bruyere
Yesterday is a cancelled check;
Tomorrow is a promissory note;
Today is the only cash you have,
so spend it wisely.
~Kim Lyons
Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right'. Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. ~Napoleon Hill
The past always looks better than it was;
it's only pleasant because it isn't here.
~Finley Peter Dunne
I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is. ~Alan Watts
We must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind us to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and mystery. ~H. G. Wells

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