Mann Milan-RT Nagar Alumni Meet

Report on Man Milan meeting on 27 August 2010 

Mann Milan is held once every month at Banjara Academy, R.T. Nagar, Bangalore. It is a get-together of the ex-students of Banjara Academy


time_stands_stillThe meeting began with a devotional song by Ms. Monica, the members later on introduced themselves
Ms. Ramya : works for TREP (Total Residential Educational Programme)
Ms. Sukanya : being an ex-student of Banjara Academy, she has served as a counselor in a BPO
Ms. Meera : she has worked for the first International School in Bangalore for 15 years as a counselor
Ms. Monika : Passed out of Banjara Academy in the year 2002 and is working as a counselor in Command Hospital
Ms. Vijaya : Ms. Vijaya passed out in the year 2007 and works for an NGO called 'So Care' that works for the black_notebook_with_pencilprotection of children of prisoners. She helps them in their studies.
Ms. Pramela : Ms. Pramela is the eldest in the group and she is in Banjara Academy as she believes in a blend of spirituality and Counseling.
Dr. Upendra Shukla : Being a Pathologist he joined Banjara Academy a year ago
Ms. Sapna : Ms. Sapna feels that she is part of Banjara Academy. She is a counselor and a volunteer for many years.
Ms. Rose : is a counselor at Mount Carmel College
Mr. Reema : Passed out in the year 2005 and is a counselor at Banjara Academy
Ms. Asha : Passed out in the year 2003 and is a counselor at Banjara Academy
Mr. Ramswamy: Also an ex-student from Banjara Academy


This was followed by a power point presentation by Ms. Asha and Ms. Reema. It was about Mother Theresa and her works.

to_doThe home work that the students were expected to do was 'Memory technique/ How to improve memory'

Ms. Meera : Memory will improve when the concept is visualized. For example if I have to remember something that I have to buy then I just walk around the house and see if anything is required. When I see the vegetable shelf is empty then I know that I have buy them. If you have to memorize anything you just visualize it, for instance a poem can be memorized just by visualizing its words. Another technique is to repeat the things that have to be remembered. If you have to remember a particular name or things to do, you just have to repeat it a few times and then you'll find that you can remember it.

dont_forgetMs. Monika : I feel memory has something to do with aging. Have an anti-aging attitude and believing that it is possible to remember, will help your memory. You should also keep the curiosity and the interest in things alive because when you are interested in something you will focus on it and this will help you remember. Associating with something or someone will also improve the memory. For example if you have to remember a person you can associate it with something about the job of the person or the hometown of that person or any incidence that you remember about the person etc. A good technique to remember a paragraph is to recognize the key words in the paragraph.

Ms. Vijaya : Memory depends on every individual. Some can remember by visualizing, some by sounds, some by the smell. These are how reminderyou can make use of the senses. William Wordsworth who has written the famous poem 'Daffodils' has defined poetry as 'Poetry is emotions collected in tranquility'. I too feel that the best method to remember something is to visualize. Another effective method to memorize would be to make the checklist of things to be done, you can always tick off the things already done. By keeping things in the same place can also be helpful to remember things. Exercising the brain can keep it active and sharp, it can be done by working puzzles, reading, chanting, learning new skills and meditation are the some of the methods to exercise your brain. Memory also depends on the what you choose to remember.

Ms. Sapna : I believe in the saying 'A place for everything and everything in its place'. Memory is easier this way and while keeping things in its place one has to pay attention to it that the particular work is done. For example when you keep the key in the shelf, you just have to pay attention to what you are doing and tell yourself that you have kept the key in its place. This helps in avoiding confusion. Memorizing can also improve by visualizing or associating with other things. I feel memory has nothing to do with aging.

calendar_closeMr. Ramaswamy : Mr. Ramaswamy had come late for the meeting so he started by saying "I thought if I come late I could skip the homework part." Then added "No! that's not the reason, I'm just joking. Now I have always remembered the test cricket playing nations by visualizing the world map. Visualizing, I feel is the easiest method to remember things. I have often left my wife behind, forgetting that she has not climbed on to the seat while riding my two-wheeler. I think that concentrating on a particular task can always help you to remember. I have a check list with me that I prepare in the morning, and before I retire to bed I see to it that I strike off the work that I have completed."


Ms. Rose : I have always remember the birthdays of very relative from a young age. I may forget anything but not the birth dates, I do not know the reason
Ms. Rose also narrated a story of a Phoenix bird and its life cycle and how it has a mate for life.


Ms. Reema : I have actually forgotten to do the homework. I tend to forget a lot. I had infact forgotten to give my exam paper and lost out the year. Everyone in the office and home know that I forget things.

Ms. Asha : I feel the best way to remember a person's name is to memorize the way they look. I can easily memorize their names this way. By visualizing too the memory can be improved.

Ms. Pramela : I feel memory improves with age. I started taking interest in studies very lately, I usually mark the key words when I read a paragraph and I try to recall the words when I am walking or doing the house work. I have observed that I can always remember the paragraph that I had studied. I also think that putting the things at the same place also helps in recalling them. When you do so you have to pay complete attention and observe as to what you are putting back. Through this you can un-crowd your mind and remember things. For example the routine work such as locking the door or switching off the gas, these are every day jobs. Sometimes even though you have done them as usual, you may have a doubt in mind if you have done it or not and start feeling tensed about it. To avoid such confusions you should always pay attention to what you do, fear or anger should not overtake you when you forget things, if it does it will constraint you from thinking calmly and recalling. I feel my memory is better when I am calm.

After everyone completed their talks on the homework given, Dr. Ali told everyone more about memory and the techniques to remember. He remembers a man named Umar Singh, the watchman of his hostel. Students used to ask him to wake them early in the morning for their studies. When asked, Umar Singh always was spontaneous to do so but when the time came Umar Singh himself would be fast asleep. This shows that if you are really interested in something then you will definitely tend to remember it.

There is lot of possibility that people remember horrific incidences than a pleasant situation, this is because of its effect the horrific incidences had on them. This shows that if you are deeply involved in something you will easily remember it.

Dr. Ali went on to narrate an episode where a priest was giving this boring lecture and people had started to walk out of the church. Seeing this the priest decided to say something that can stop them. He immediately said, 'I have a special message at the end, which I want all of you to take home, so please wait till the end of the speech' and started to pretend to search for that message. A man stood up to walk out. The priest was furious and said 'I told you there is something important at the end of the speech, why are you going?'. The man replied 'If it was really that important you would have memorized it and will not be searching for the message.'

Memorizing can also improve if the mind is calm, clear thinking is also possible. The name of a person can be remembered when the conversion with him/her can be carried out using the name of the person. There is also the concept of long term and short term memory, associating a person with a thing can also help you remember them.

Dr. Ali recalls a lecture by one Mr. Dick, it was on Alzheimer, after the speech one reporter came forward and ask a question, " How do I know if I am Alzheimer?" The reporter was holding a bunch of keys. Mr. Dick asked the reporter "What keys are you holding?" to which the reporter answered that those were his motorcycle keys. Mr. Dick said " Ok young man, if you look at the keys and say ' Are these my vehicle keys or cupboard?' you are not Alzheimer". " If you look at the keys and say ' theses are my motorcycle keys, but where did I park the motorcycle?' you are not Alzheimer". " If look at the keys and say 'What are these?!' then you are Alzheimer".

The concept of Mnemonics would be just tricks. For example a small boy may be called upon the stage in front of the audience and taught to memorize 30 words in 5 minutes which the boy will do. But this will not help in the improvement of the memory. It will not have any effect in the long run.

Every individual is good at recalling things in their own manner, some recall incidences by visualizing, some by the sounds. You should know which skills helps you and improve on them. And keeping the mind healthy by solving puzzles or reading is always a good habit.

Dr. Ali stressed on the point made by Ms. Pramela, as to paying attention while doing a particular task, this helps to avoid confusions. He also said that he usually catches up names when the other person is addressing them by their name.

Keeping the same things at the same place may weaken the memory as the brain need not remember it and it is done by default and without any effort. This may also reduce the memory as there is nothing done to sharpen or challenge it.

With this the meeting ended and the next meeting was scheduled for 24 September 2010 at 4 p.m. and the topic for homework was "Recall a Misunderstanding with someone and how it was resolved."


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