Jaagruthi Counsellors Forum

How Do You Feel As A Counsellor?

---Associating with children in their confidence building stage to help them learning life skill was satisfying. As a counselor have grown a lot. Tendency of being judgmental came down. At times conflict arises between you the home maker and you the counselor, however the ability to deal with it improved and so the personal life within and outside home.

---Became more accepting by being more aware of the science of counseling like positive strokes, saying thank you and sorry. Problem solving ability improved. Started counting own blessings and feeling is satisfying and peaceful.

---The counseling activity started prior to formal exposure to counseling techniques. However, the learning of counseling techniques improved my interaction with the counselee giving a feeling of goodness in self.

---The professional exposure to counseling fine-tuned and polished counseling ability. Lot of mental blocks cleared. Now nothing affects and I am able to leave and remain detached. Being a counselor gives lot of strength.

---Feel more insensitive as emotional attachment reduced. Feel confused when the person and profession conflicts. Feel better by being withdrawn when expressions of being judgmental and fight of who is right and blanking what is right grows nearby. Feel conflicting remarks just as personal opinion and not a verdict. The connect with situation and counselee are not carried beyond session.

---Not in a position to accept family members as they are. A family counselor is expected to have ultimate resilience like being a rubber band. Though have been able to tackle emotional problems of outside students the recognition within family is not there. It is necessary that as a counselor one should empower self and wakeup to identify self-need and want.

---Others comment for being calm and composed. Now the anger does not have bad ends. Keep remembering the skills of counseling. Feel more grounded and enjoying being to herself.

---Able to connect “Me to me”, “Me to others”, “Others to me”. Not asking curious questions were challenging but have learnt not to blame others. Being able to listen to others was the greatest learning.

---Counseling taught to be a better teacher and a human being, a better listener. It led to more of detachment, more of isolation.

---Feels good about it. Working as a counselor for children helped being a good parent. Listening improved a lot. Now can relate to a person and feel good about it.

---Helped me for better introspection and understanding own emotions and its source. Helped self-awareness, learning for not taking sides and giving into own securities.

---Counseling empowered me to deal with my own adversaries. Interaction with the people as a counselor helped handling grieve.


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